The question you need to ask yourself, 'Is are ready to be a mother or are you ready to balance both?'
Since the 1920's during the year of the suffragettes and the suffragist. Women have tried to move away from straining stereotypes such House wife and now at present teenage mums on benefits.
We have now entered an Era where mothers are learning to balance both. Mothers are seen posting jobs across social media including Working from home and opening up their own baby clothing line. It is not the fact that Mothers cannot work, but rather a decision that some mothers choose not to work. Depending on the Career path you wish to pursue some jobs or training will require a certain level of qualification. Knowing this some mothers are already daunting the time they will have to spend away from their child.
Do you often feel guilty, leaving your child to attend work or study?
It is important to remember to start when your ready. Having a child isn't easy, and many complications can arise before and after birth. It is known that mothers who tend to have a career before they had their children, will become more attached and leave their career to mind their children. On the other hand mothers who have their children young (16-25) will nurse their babies and enter training when the time is right, leaving babies in Government approved childcare.
It is crucial that a mothers mental health is stable before she returns back to work or makes decisions about work. Time is important and there is no competition. Take your time to watch your child grow, otherwise you will miss out!.. on the things which can't be repeated like; 'your child saying Mama or your Childs first steps'.
Talk to Someone ! Mothers, especially single mothers can often feel alone during the pressures of being a new Mum. Over the last couple of years 'parenting support groups' and 'mums and babies groups' have been on the rise.
If your feeling lonely, 'Get out there' and' Go for walks with your newborn'.
Locate your local children Centre or search www.netmums.com on google !
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Get out there and make friends, share your stories with people who understand you!
You never know, sharing your ideas, might be the step into your new Career path with other Career driven Mums.
Are you using your baby as a excuse to stop pursing your career?
Entering motherhood and becoming a parent, will be the most beautiful and straining thing you will ever do. But no one often talks about what happens after birth. No one talks about fear which enters your mind, when your that you are doing the right thing. The pressure that you are letting your child down by not being the person you wish you was.
STOP, worrying about things that haven't happened yet.
Maybe at present, you can hide behind the fact that you are a full time mother,.. and this is the reason you can't pursue your chosen career. But as time goes by, you child will begin to grow and become less dependant on you. Now unless you have another child within two years of your last, then failing to pursue your career is just another excuse (thats if you really want it ?).
So I guess your thinking what to do next?
If your reading this post, Im guessing that you are a newly mum or your thinking about having a baby. First of all Congratulations for making the decision, having a baby is not the be all and all. Its actually the best thing you can dream of achieving, so lets tell you the five steps that can lead you towards you having a Career.
1. Make a Plan and Create a Visual Board - So every day you wake and can see where you are going.
2. Research - Research what you need to do in order to achieve you dream career. e.g.; attend University, gain work experience, volunteer, travel.
3. Apply or Book- make a deferred entry to university, to your work experience placement or your break to creativity.
4. Confirm - Once you have got confirmation of your place at Uni/Work placement or Creative Break.
5. Never stop mentally Preparing Yourself- Until it happens, because anything can happen!
- Read Books and mentally prepare yourself, Train your mind. Research careers like yours. Share your idea with friends or family and get their opinion.
-Record your Process, the more you enjoy what your doing and the more you do; the better prepared you will be!
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